tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post1412508083669559695..comments2023-12-13T02:23:37.161-05:00Comments on Baby Rachel's Legacy: DON'T ASK ME HOW I AMRachel's Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05085949875951256158noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-79631629971745097812011-12-18T20:45:56.238-05:002011-12-18T20:45:56.238-05:00I love it absolutely love it when people get offen...I love it absolutely love it when people get offensed that they hurt a grieving mother (sarcastic tone). I have had that happen so many times. <br /><br />I like to answer "how are you" with "despite the obvious....I am .... Whatever I am feeling."<br /><br />I worried about my living children long before Lilly and even more so after Lilly. My best friend alanna has not lost a child and a heart murmur would worry her despite what the Dr. SaidAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07194853103053771968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-717932153274943152011-12-15T15:18:07.487-05:002011-12-15T15:18:07.487-05:00People are dumb. I have a neighbor and good friend...People are dumb. I have a neighbor and good friend who said one day, "I think my sole purpose in life is to extend grace to people." Sometimes that just means that we listen. I'm sorry that your "friend" didn't take the time to CLOSE her mouth, after saying, "I'm sorry" and listen to you with her HEART open!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07895377764641073987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-45452574731562878932011-12-03T16:37:48.555-05:002011-12-03T16:37:48.555-05:00I have been reading your blog for a few months now...I have been reading your blog for a few months now...I love how honest you are with how you are feeling. I am a childless mama, never having experienced ANYTHING (including even getting pregnant) you are going through. I am sorry that you have gone through a baby loss..I wish I could have 4 beautiful children, as you do...:) <br />As far as what other people say, and how they say it, we don't always KNOW what to say, and sometimes things just come out WRONG! (granted, she should have aplogized) I just try to be there to listen to them, and let them cry, and just talk about it.The A Teamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08360941896863619384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-31135628647509801342011-12-01T23:55:53.657-05:002011-12-01T23:55:53.657-05:00I'm so sorry you had to put up with such insen...I'm so sorry you had to put up with such insensitive comments, and with no apology at the end of it either. That was plain rude :( Your fears are so natural, especially given what you have been through. Praying for you as it comes up to Rachel's first birthday.Becshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06914338811646047652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-46599068348141472582011-12-01T23:15:57.246-05:002011-12-01T23:15:57.246-05:00Wow, I can't believe she tried to JUSTIFY bein...Wow, I can't believe she tried to JUSTIFY being so rude to you!<br />And you know, it is definitely a cultural thing in America, if someone asks "How are you?" all they want to here is "Fine thanks, how are you?" People DO NOT want a real answer, and that seems to be regardless of what is going on in your life, or what hurts you make have experienced, or traumas or losses. No one wants to REALLY know. It's sad.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514992909586849215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-18770742900836873412011-12-01T19:19:45.656-05:002011-12-01T19:19:45.656-05:00Hi Stacy,
I was praying for you/thinking of you t...Hi Stacy, <br />I was praying for you/thinking of you this morning & got on here to see if you had posted & this ..... ugh! Was hoping for more "manna" or sweet pictures, or healing for you ..... not more pain! I'm sorry you have to keep enduring .... I know it makes things way more difficult than they need to be. I think not answering the question any more is wise! =)<br />Big hugs from me!<br />LeliaLeliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15585301160629858875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-19889841205570628352011-12-01T06:52:22.081-05:002011-12-01T06:52:22.081-05:00Oh honey. Just sending you my love, ok. Just F the...Oh honey. Just sending you my love, ok. Just F them all if you want. This is your time. Wish I could be there and just listen to how you REALLY feel.Nathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09916842172714172750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-57222759249811049212011-12-01T06:34:19.223-05:002011-12-01T06:34:19.223-05:00BIG hugs, Stacy! <3BIG hugs, Stacy! <3Francehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03537790166908720654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-23029104547411057452011-11-30T21:19:52.722-05:002011-11-30T21:19:52.722-05:00Praying especially hard for you tonight. Hugs and...Praying especially hard for you tonight. Hugs and prayers.....Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08509883355394380559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-32976461288960500522011-11-30T20:09:14.740-05:002011-11-30T20:09:14.740-05:00My heart is broken and my blessings are with you a...My heart is broken and my blessings are with you and your family!!pandorahunterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07645592751094468407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-54555736413481329452011-11-30T19:07:55.723-05:002011-11-30T19:07:55.723-05:00HugsHugsRanisohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09665362687554561271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-9590649705614284072011-11-30T17:34:35.807-05:002011-11-30T17:34:35.807-05:00:hug::hug:Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10035184073735513057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-29320159515773009652011-11-30T17:22:12.673-05:002011-11-30T17:22:12.673-05:00Wow, I can relate to people doing this type of thi...Wow, I can relate to people doing this type of thing and it is so rude of them. If I could I would hug you also. I'm so sorry. Thank you for being honest about your pain. I once heard a quote that I think is relevant for this situation (please forgive me if its not). I feel the lack of love from people is still the same.: <br /><br />"Many women who have cesareans suffer in silence because society expects them to "just be happy about thier baby." Well-meaning family members [and friends] say "Be grateful; a hundred years ago and you both would have died." The farce begins. We paint a smile on and pretend it doesn't hurt. How do we convey the experience of traumatic birth?"<br /><br />I will be praying for you today. ~CassyCassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15497160153167175167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-69650279839837524032011-11-30T17:18:22.829-05:002011-11-30T17:18:22.829-05:00So sorry. The best gift someone can give a hurting...So sorry. The best gift someone can give a hurting soul is just to listen. People have opinions and like to give them whether they know anything about the situation or not. The best thing is just to listen or give a hug. Sorry you do not have a friend that is there for you as you walk this deep path.Praying for you as Rachel's 1st birthday approaches.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10019766200740081876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99400039966124695.post-2108122225632773442011-11-30T16:40:14.855-05:002011-11-30T16:40:14.855-05:00HUGE hugs. xoxoHUGE hugs. xoxoAmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13120815894919084931noreply@blogger.com