We have my sister's kids here tonight and I just overheard Des & Jailyn talking in the kitchen...
Des "Nana's our grandmother, we just call her Nana"
Jailyn "But her real name is Rachel"
Des "Just like my baby sister"
Jailyn "Yeah, your baby sister is going to be dancing in your hearts"
Anyone who doesn't see that children are a blessing are out of their minds. Blessings usually come with a lot of work and that is true of children...but man, I love kids. They are awesome. Last week we had Jailyn too and we went to Walmart. It was me, Matt, the 4 kids and Rachel. The kids were being really good and they were laughing like crazy. It was the most light hearted trip we've had to Walmart in a long time. A lady walking by us actually said "Have 5 more kids" in a negative tone as she walked by. I was feeling a little moody and slightly PO'd that she was looking at my Rachel like a bad thing and said "I think we will, thanks"... I won't tell you what I wanted to say to her, but the truth is, I feel bad for her. She can't have joy in her life.
I know there were people who thought us being pregnant again this time a was bad thing. Some in our families..and some even in our church family. I wonder now if they think about the comments they made... if they regret the things they said or thought. And then I have the people who ask me why I didn't just "get it over with" and terminate or "why the doctors were making me carry her to term" As if she is just a nuisance to my life. I've had people ask if I would dare getting pregnant again cause the risk of having another anencephalic baby is higher next time - as if it would be worse to have another baby like Rachel then to not have another blessing at all. (which, by the way, I don't agree with)
Just like every child we have, or will ever have...and (for the lady at Walmart) we just might have 5 more! :o) Rachel is a blessing... a joy... a lot of work...and worth every second of it. Anyone who doesn't see that is out of their minds.
I love children! And I totally agree with you - it's sad there are people who can't see children are a blessing. Those people never realize they were once children, and if their parents had thought like they did, they would have never been brought to existence!
ReplyDeleteI think you do a great job as a mother, and that is the most important thing. Some children are left alone and not cared for, which is a pity, and then I can understand when some people think those parents should not have more children (like in Brazil we have a lot of poor families who keep having children but can't care for them). But with you it's different - you always wanted to be a mother and your children love you and are very much loved.
Every child is a blessing. Every baby is a blessing. I had a very sad and upsetting experience last week when two people complained of my posting pictures of my niece on Facebook. I couldn't believe it! Those people claimed to be my friends, but were "tired" of seeing my niece's pictures because she doesn't look like a "normal" baby. I was outraged. I was so angry and sad and that made me realize there are a lot of people out there who not even don't care for Vicky, but also don't understand why my sister kept her. Vicky's photos make them uncomfortable. It really breaks my heart people can be so insensitive.
We have to pray for those people, even though sometimes I'd rather just tell them to f*** off. I know, it's mean and not Christian like. But what they're doing is also mean.
I hope and pray you endure the next 2 weeks! God bless you, dear!
I agree wholeheartedly with you! :) Children ARE a blessing! We have 4 with us here and 1 waiting to meet us in heaven and I can't wait to meet him for the first time! We lost our precious Ethan Mark at 32 weeks. I wouldn't trade a moment of being pregnant with him either! He brought blessing and joy to our lives, yes in the form of a trial, but growth is never something to look back at and regret. Our God is amazing! And our children are each a gift from Him! No matter how much time we are allowed with them here on earth! Keep loving your children and being an example everywhere you go. You are building the next generation of strong believers by your example in their lives!
ReplyDeleteok i just started following this. when is your babys new due date???? or did you already have racheal??????
ReplyDeleteAnyone can see why I love my grandchildren so..................
ReplyDeleteAs the mother of ten myself, I can tell you most people have no idea as to what they are missing out on. I learned to blow off their ignorant comments by the time I had my fifth baby. When they said, "Hey, don't you know what causes that?" I'd say, "Yes, and I LOVE it!"
ReplyDeleteI now make a point to stop large families and tell them how blessed they are, what a beautiful family they have and how happy it makes me to see them! Interestingly, it's usually the BIG families who have the calm, well-behaved kids following along behind them. They are NOT the ones laying on the floor screaming for candy!
Keep up the good work, Stacy! Don't let them get you down!
I am.... not even sure how to put into words how amazed I am at how strong you are being through this whole thing. I have two children and am a single mother. My daughter is almost 16 and my son is 3 1/2. I love my children with all my heart and whould not change any choices I have made. It took my a long time to get pregnant with my son and now I can never have any more. I applaud you for sharing your story. My daughter Kirsten said to me when I was pregnant with my son, "Mom I am not going to have any kids of my own I am going to go to a good college, make lots of money and addopt an older child who does not have a mom or dad." I said you may want to at least have one of your owm, she said " Nope its gonna be an older child from the US, there are to many without someone to love and care for them." I cried of course because I knew that I had done something to have such a kind and loving child. I may not attend church on a regular basis but I beleive God gives us only what we can handle and no one cad tell her how you should live your life, keep following you heart everything as it should be. God bless. ~Bridget~
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