Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Hi My Name Is:

OK, this has been on my heart for a while...  Through this journey with Rachel, I have been contacted by some of the most precious people I have ever known.  I have developed friendships with people across the world and have come to love these people...and their babies and children, who are playing with Rachel right now. 

Because I get so many emails and facebook messages from so many different people who have had losses, I am struggling to remember everything I want to.  I also feel really bad when I forget a detail that I should remember.

So, here's what I'm asking...of even the people I talk to regularly....If you're comfortable doing this, could you please comment and write:
  • your name
  • your baby or child's name
  • and their birthday and day you said goodbye
  • If you're carrying a baby that has been diagnosed with a fatal birth defect, please tell us their name and their due date, along with what they have.
This way I can be praying for you as well as rejoicing with you at those times.  I am by nature a date person...  I remember dates from almost everything and since that's important to me, I like to do that for others as well.  I have been falling short because there are so many. 

The fact that there are too many to remember breaks my heart.  I have been in tears daily at my computer reading yet another story of someone who lost a child.  Usually it is babies, but today it was a 6 year old and a 16 year old.  I am ashamed at how clueless I was to this reality before Rachel.  This post from months ago says something similar.  It's an area that God has really given me a heart for. 

Even in the case of abortion.  I've heard people say that after they lost a baby, they got angry about people who have abortions.  I don't feel that way... I actually feel more sad for them.  I know the pain of having a baby ripped from me...I can't imagine an abortion feels any better whether the baby was planned or not.  Mothers are not meant to have empty arms.  The number of people affected by miscarriage, infant loss, and the death of a child is huge. And if we add abortion to that list, because it is a loss of a baby, it goes much higher. We all take life for granted....until we lose one.

Anyway, I could go on and on and I don't think it would ever really do how I feel justice.  Please take a minute and help me not only make a list for myself that will help me remember you...but that will also raise awareness for the losses we have experienced.

I'll go first.

My name is Stacy
I lost a baby to miscarriage on May 7, 2008.  I had my daughter Rachel Alice on December 3, 2010 and lost her that day to anencephaly.  She lived 43 minutes.

That's it...  now it's your turn....


  1. My name is Michele Aube, and my first born son was diagnosed with Potters syndrome at 20 weeks with zero survival rate. Nathaniel Flanagan Aube was born on February 11, 2008. There is not a day that goes by that he is not missed or thought of (Love you baby). Now our angels are dancing in heaven until we meet them again at the pearly gates. God Bless all!

  2. I know I find it hard to remember so many dates. I hate that there are so many to try and remember in the first place. I'm hoping to eventually have a little calendar with the dates for all the babies that I follow blogs to and know IRL.

    My name is Holly. I lost my baby Jordan Leigh on December 19, 2002 to abortion. I lost my daughter Carleigh McKenna on March 28, 2009 to anencephaly. She was born still.

  3. Hi, my name is Betsy. I lost my identical twin son's Easton and Parker on November 20, 2010 due to prematurity. They were mine and my husband's first children and will forever be in our heart's.

    You are such an inspiration and I appreciate your willingness to pray for other mother's who have lost their children.

  4. My name is Rebecca :)

    I have suffered 2 losses that have forever changed my life. I love the babies that I lost dearly and still find myself in tears some days over their loss and can't wait to meet them again someday.

    I had a devastating miscarriage (on my birthday!) in September of 2005. I then had my rainbow son in 2006.:) I suffered another devastating miscarriage in June of 2008. I then had my rainbow daughter after s struggle w/ secondary infertility in 2010.

    That's me. :) <3

  5. My name is Carrie.
    My son Ethan Mark was stillborn on August 5th, 2004.

  6. My name is Courtney. My daughter Ella Joy was born on November 1, 2010. She went to be with Jesus immediately. She also passed away from anencephaly. She was a precious gift from God! :-)

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  8. Wonderful idea Stacy! I had thought about starting a journal with the blogs that I follow and all the dates in it.

    My name is Chrissy. My twin boys were born February 4 2010. Cayden passed away on February 6th 2010 to anencephaly. Not a second goes by that we don't miss our baby boy.

  9. My name is Sonia
    I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks on August 26th of 2008.

  10. Hi, my name is Anne Alix. My husband Chris and I got to spend 33 weeks and 3 days with our middle daughter, Rose Jacqueline Alix until she was born into Heaven on June 23rd, 2009. She was diagnosed with anencephaly on St Patties day of '09 and we have been grieving the news since. In her honor we are having an Irish feast this St Patricks Day. We love you and miss you, Rose. Behave until we get there!

  11. Hi! My name is Jessi and I lost my baby due to miscarriage on December 8, 2010. I was 10 weeks along. You are all in my prayers.

  12. My name is Jessi and I lost my 4th child to miscarriage on December 8, 2010. All of you are in my prayers.

  13. My name is Elizabeth. My 2nd daughter Mackenzie was born March 27, 2009 and passed away April 3, 2009 due to Turner Syndrome and HLHS.

    This is so sweet of you to do. I think about your baby and others that I follow daily. Keeping you all in my heart.

  14. Hello again, my name is Nichole :)

    Our baby was diagnosed with a Cystic Hygroma at 12 weeks, VSD (heart) @ 17 weeks and ventriculomegaly. We were initially told that it was very likely that our baby would have either Down or Turners Syndrome. We put faith in the Lord and accepted his gift. Turned out our Dr.’s where wrong with their “initial guess”. Owen was born fearfully and wonderfully made on March 8 2010, a true Mondays child beautiful and perfect with CHARGE like syndrome “association”. Owen returned Home on July 8th 2010 following open heart surgery. We thank God daily for our 4 months together.

    Stacy thank you for O’s Birthday message I think you are right – he and Rachel danced a little diddy in celebration .

  15. ♥Amelia♥

    Melissa Lorang
    Lost baby "Gabriel" to a miscarriage at approx 13 weeks 7/07. Gave birth to a healthy boy, Noah on 8/25/08. Gave birth to my daughter Amelia Grace 7/28/10. She lived for 2 precious hours and died as a result of Anencephaly. I am 19 weeks pregnant with a son Sam expected on 7/28/11.

    Love You!

  16. I have been watching your blog for some time and just want to say you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    My name is Lisa
    I had very tramatic miscarriage when I was 12 weeks on March 24, 2001. Baby Makenna Stephen is always in our thoughts. we never found out the sex so this is what we named our baby.

    I am also an aunt to a beautiful lil girl that went to heaven on Jan 4, 1999 at 10 months of age, she had gastroschisis. She would of turned 13 yesterday. Auntie loves and misses you Sara.

  17. My Name is Autumn McKenzie. I endured a loss in March of 2008 at 8 weeks. In 2010, My heart beat for three for 13 weeks 1 day. We lost our twin babies July 28, 2010.

  18. My name is Katherine Corbett. My son grew his wings on March 17th 2010. He was still born at 28 weeks

  19. Mike & Becky Holt lost Maddison at 8 weeks to miscarriage on January 13, 2010. And Baby Holt to miscarriage at 13 weeks on October 15, 2010

  20. Stacy,
    I know that you and all these wonderful mommas will be praying for a mom I know. Her name is Melanie and is pregnant with a baby with anencephaly. She is being delivered this coming Wednesday. Those are all the details that I know at this time. We went to Bible School together and I heard yesterday about this. So, if you wonderful moms would hold her and her family up in prayer that would be awesome!
    Love and prayers for all you amazing moms out there!

  21. Kara - Mommy of Karinne (as well as 3 older children and our rainbow baby)born with acrania (a form of anencephaly) on May 10, 2010. 10 precious minutes! karinneclaire.blogspot.com

  22. My name is Amy, and I miscarried twins in May 2004. We never knew the gender of our babies. Our rainbow son Tyler was born on Thanksgiving Day 2005. I miscarried our 4th baby on New Year's Eve 2007/2008. Our rainbow daughter was born on Dec 18, 2008 which just happens to be the due date of the twins that I miscarried.

  23. Jim and Hope lost Matthew Thomas to an Ectopic Pregnancy on August 29,2008, we also lost a second baby to another ectopic pregnancy on May 1,2009.
    We think of and pray for you all on a daily basis
    God Bless You

  24. Hi my name is Bridget. I had an abortion when I was 16 years old. There is not a day that goes by I don't think about it. I also had two miscarriages. One is 1996 & one in 2005. I thought god was punishing me for the longest time because of the abortion. It took forever to have my precious son who will be 4 on Apr 2.

  25. My name is Andrea.
    I lost my daughter Taylor Angelica Marie to miscarriage on 9/16/01.
    Love and prayers to you all!

  26. I am Tienne Wilkin. I have 4 children here on Earth and 2 angels. Baby #4 Went
    to Heaven in May 2008- Due Dec. 2008. Baby#5 went to heaven in September 2009-
    Due April 2010.

  27. My name is Monique. I lost my first baby to miscarriage at 14wks on 6/2/95, my second baby to miscarriage at 11wks on 1/12/96, my third baby, our son, Sebastian, born at 24wks on 6/3/98 - flew to heaven 6/6/98. I had the continued blessing of 3 more children born healthy thanks to a cervical cerclage...a daughter on 8/4/99, another son on 1/4/02 and my youngest daughter on 3/11/08.

    God is always God, and God is always good ♥♥♥

  28. My name is Becky Eveleth. Our twins were lost to miscarriage on November 15, 1999. Another baby lost to miscarriage on Valentines Day 2002.

  29. My name is Jaimie. I lost a baby on October 4th, 2007. I was 12 weeks pregnant.

  30. My name is Hannah Norris. I know I'm really late on this, but I started at the beginning on your blog and am trying to catch up!

    My first loss: Miscarriage June 30, 2009
    My second loss: Sadie Mae born on January 18, 2011.
    She was diagnosed with bi-lateral renal agenesis (no kidneys) and only lived a few minutes after birth.


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Thank you! ♥ The Aubes