Because I get so many emails and facebook messages from so many different people who have had losses, I am struggling to remember everything I want to. I also feel really bad when I forget a detail that I should remember.
So, here's what I'm asking...of even the people I talk to regularly....If you're comfortable doing this, could you please comment and write:
- your name
- your baby or child's name
- and their birthday and day you said goodbye
- If you're carrying a baby that has been diagnosed with a fatal birth defect, please tell us their name and their due date, along with what they have.
The fact that there are too many to remember breaks my heart. I have been in tears daily at my computer reading yet another story of someone who lost a child. Usually it is babies, but today it was a 6 year old and a 16 year old. I am ashamed at how clueless I was to this reality before Rachel. This post from months ago says something similar. It's an area that God has really given me a heart for.
Even in the case of abortion. I've heard people say that after they lost a baby, they got angry about people who have abortions. I don't feel that way... I actually feel more sad for them. I know the pain of having a baby ripped from me...I can't imagine an abortion feels any better whether the baby was planned or not. Mothers are not meant to have empty arms. The number of people affected by miscarriage, infant loss, and the death of a child is huge. And if we add abortion to that list, because it is a loss of a baby, it goes much higher. We all take life for granted....until we lose one.
Anyway, I could go on and on and I don't think it would ever really do how I feel justice. Please take a minute and help me not only make a list for myself that will help me remember you...but that will also raise awareness for the losses we have experienced.
I'll go first.
My name is Stacy
I lost a baby to miscarriage on May 7, 2008. I had my daughter Rachel Alice on December 3, 2010 and lost her that day to anencephaly. She lived 43 minutes.
That's it... now it's your turn....